Sep 25, 2018
Last week, Kevin had a deep and
insightful conversation with Nick Tasler about what good people do
when bad things happen to them. They touched on Dr. Viktor Frankl’s
view on “Tragic Optimism” - the unwavering belief that life is good
despite episodes of adversity. This inspired Kevin to share 7
mindset shifts that will ground your life in gratitude and
meaning.
1. Changing your default setting to become more
receptive to opportunities.
- How do you naturally respond to
unbelievable opportunities that come your way? Kevin shares how the
book, Immunity to Change, had helped him rewire his brain to change his
immediate response, “Why me?” to “Why not me?”
- Why is there a need to shift
your default setting? Sometimes we don’t feel qualified when we are
called to do great things. We are often too critical of ourselves.
This makes us blind to our own qualifications. Kevin calls on you
to stop disqualifying yourself from claiming these once in a
lifetime opportunities. Own your qualifications and seize your
opportunities.
2. Adopt, cultivate, and develop a growth
mindset.
- When people box themselves up
in limiting beliefs that describe their resources as finite, they
get trapped in the Fixed Mindset. They don’t believe that they are
capable of change. They are stuck thinking “this is it” when it
comes to who they are and what they have. Life is unfair and
there’s nothing they can do about it.
- Studies have shown that the
human brain has the capability to constantly learn and adapt
throughout our lives. Which makes sense now that we're shifting to
the Growth Mindset. People who live by the Growth Mindset open
themselves up to abundance and potential. They believe that life,
although sometimes difficult, has limitless
possibilities.
- How can you live by the Growth
Mindset? Nourish your mind. Surround yourself with positive people.
Work on intentionally transforming those limiting beliefs into
liberating beliefs.
3. Moving away from egocentrism and becoming
other-centric.
- Do you think about yourself
more than you think about others? In Rick Warren’s book,
Purpose Driven Life, the opening statement says, “It’s not about
you.” If we want to create significant change in our lives, we must
go out of our way to build meaningful relationships with the people
around us. Find ways to dedicate yourself and resources to support
efforts that improve the lives of those around you. Do something
for someone who has no way to repay you. Consciously shift away
from self-service and focus on being authentic when you’re
extending service.
4. Focus on what matters most.
- Kevin shares how his routines
help him focus and keep his priorities straight. We may have
different priorities in life, but it acts as our anchor for when
the beauty and chaos of life happens. When we learn to rank and
understand what’s most important to us, we are better able to walk
our journey without distractions.
5. Live in the now in light of eternity.
- "Now" may be the only time we
have, but now is not an isolated time. This very moment is a slice
of eternity. Now connects with everything that came before and
everything that follows. Live knowing that your life is the product
of all the nows that you have lived so far. Live wisely and make
those nows count. What you do now, at this moment, is both the soil
and the seeds of what is to come in your life.
6. Live a more led, less driven life.
- What is the driven life? It’s
the hustle and bustle, the fast-paced and high energy demanding
life. Living your life as if you were on fire and attempting to put
it out yourself by flailing your hands.
- What is a led life? It’s living
a responsive life, following the leading and rhythms of life. It’s
about living a life of connectivity, creativity, and
community.
7. Live in the abundance loop.
- Ground yourself in gratefulness and seek to
live in abundance. Do you know what’s holding you back from living
a fruitful life? It’s called the scarcity mentality. It distracts
you from enjoying the good things that are present in your life
with the belief that it will come to an abrupt end.
- You
always have something to be grateful for. Kevin encourages us to
find ways throughout our day to incorporate and include gratitude
so that we flourish in the abundance loop.
Do you need clarity on how to move forward?
Are you at a crossroads or facing a transition and not confident
about what to do now or next? Then you're invited to join Kevin
Monroe for a Clarity
Call. You can enter for a free call, or book right away!
Resources:
Man Search For Meaning
Immunity to Change
Mindset
The Shallows
Purpose Driven Life
Leadership and Self Deception: Getting out of
the box
Outward Mindset: Seeing Beyond
Ourselves